Anger ; How to control

Anger is a natural emotion that we all experience at different times. Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When we become hyper; anger comes out in full rage , we lose our judgement power; quite possible. Chances are very bright that our thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. We are so much in the control of this powerful emotion that we hardly realize at that time how we behaved or acted in a certain manner.

I believe, most common factors that make people angry are  grief, humiliation,  injustice, disappointment, failure, stress, embarrassment, any kind of abuse, illness(physical and mental), any kind of irritation etc. But don’t you all feel whatever the reason is it’s consequences are queer, terrible and threatening for sure. So, what’s required on our part? We must put efforts to get our anger under control .We need to enable to ourselves to cope and deal with anger; stress. Life we use all possible techniques to reduce stress , certainly we can channelize our anger into socially reliable behavior.

Let’s put certain tips altogether to manage anger in a positive way .

v  DON’T MAKE ANGER A HABIT

 Nothing is impossible. Hence, we can control our anger no matter what degree it is  …

v  TAKE A TIMEOUT.

Timeout!!!! Are we kids? No, but sometimes Yes!!! Give yourself  breaks during tims of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you prepare yourself what’s ahed; what can be a better way out of a particular situation without getting angry or irritated.

v  ONCE YOU’RE CALM ,EXPRESS YOUR ANGER.

As soon as you start thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive way. Don’t confront the person in front of you. State your concerns and points with clarity, without hurting others or trying to control them.

v  THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

Sometimes we act impulsive, in the heat of the moment, it is easy to say something you may regret later. Take a few moments , soothe yourself , collect your thoughts before you say anything. And you must allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

v  DON’T HOLD A GRUDGE

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. Don’t allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings. If you forgive someone who has angered you, you boyh might learn from the situation. It’s unrealistic to expect everyone behave exactly as you want.

v  IDENTIFY POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS

Instead of focusing on what made you angry, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child’s messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.

v  UNDERSTAND OTHERS’ VIEWS

Try to understand the other person’s point of view. That’s the only way out to reduce anger as according to them, they are right and you can’t change that.

v  PRACTICE RELAXATION SKILLS

Whenever your temper flares, put relaxation skills into practice. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene ,or repeat a calming phrase such as ‘Take it easy’. Seems unrealistic!!! But believe me, it really works. You might also listen to music, write your feelings or do a few yoga exercises; whatever relaxes you.

v  USE HUMOUR TO HELP

Lightening up can diffuse tension. Use humour,fun to help you face what’s making you angry. Personally, I’m very fortunate to have my dear son whose one-liners, that too very spontaneous , make me smile whatever the situation is. Oh! Smile is an underrated word in his case, it’s laugh actually. Avoid sarcasm, it may hurt feelings and make things worse.

v  GET SOME EXERCISE

We all are very much aware of the fact that physical activities can help us reduce stress that can lead you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.

v  KNOW WHEN TO SEEK HELP

Don’t hesitate to ask help from others to sort out matters.

Hoping these views of mine would benefit you in real terms. Try and follow these points. It’s our utmost duty to keep ourselves happy; n for that , just put these simple techniques into practice.

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